Saturday, February 18, 2006

Sedona Method - Happiness and Havingness

I was sitting by an open fire last night in an Indian restaurant by a lake in the spanish countryside.

My buddy was asking me about happiness and I was talking to her about the difference between improving your standard of living and your quality of life. Big difference!

While improving your standard of living is a worthwhile objective, it is good to pause for a moment to notice how good we already have it. If you´re reading this you have electricity, internet access - not to mention food and shelter. There is no reason to take this for granted.

Most of the six billion people on this planet don´t even have clean running water. They would be stunned to see how concerned many of the people in the richest nations are about their standard of living.

The irony of it all is that when you give more attention to your quality of life you will have more peace of mind, more happiness and more time to enjoy the people and the things you love.

This in turn gives you more energy to be productive and effective in the world, giving rise to an even better standard of living if that is what you want.

Having more will not make you happier. It will not improve your quality of life. Yes, more money can ease certain hassles and day to day pressures however success brings with it other issues to deal with. You may find all you do is upgrade your concerns!

I contend that success is the ultimate challenge! Can you handle it when you have it? And that is why quality of life is the ultimate goal - in the form of health and vitality, happiness and peace of mind. Success may come and go but feeling happy can endure regardless when you master releasing.

How hard is it to have peace of mind? It´s easier than you think actually. Can you let go of one distracting thought? Yes, of course you can! Let go of two? Yes! Three, four, five, and so on....

It all comes back to one fundamental principle - you can let go of any self-imposed limitation and thereby have more quality of life and more happiness.

A little releasing a day goes a long way...........

Thursday, February 09, 2006

Sedona Method - Love and Worry

For any issue that leaves you feeling stuck it is really, really helpful to get into CAP first before you even start releasing on the issue.

Let´s say you are worried sick about finding the money to pay your electricity bill. If you try letting go of it you may get nowhere. The stress can keep you stuck.

Go high to release first. Release on something else that is easy for you. Only when you are in CAP can you reach down to AGFAP and let those feelings go with much more ease.

Then, make sure you follow the six steps i.e. release to go free!

You might also want to consider the difference between love and worry. Let me give an example. A while back I had some friends around and I was showing their three year old boy the roof terrace. He wanted to climb the stairs and look around.

We then came back down the stairs and he enjoyed the challenge of making his way down these, for him, huge steps. He was having a blast with this challenge. And I was ready to catch him so he was in danger whatsoever. He was smiling and delighted with himself when he got to the bottom of the stairs.

Ten minutes later we were back up on the roof terrace with his parents and this time on the way down the stairs he was terrified! Why? Because of his mother. Her worry and negative directions scared him so much he was afraid he was going to hurt himself at any moment.

For her, and she admits this herself, she doesn´t want the kid to grow up too fast. What would she do then?

It can be very revealing to see what worry gives you - wanting a/c/s? Could you let go of wanting a//c/s? Of course you can! If you have ever let go of wanting a/c/s in the past you can do so again.

The great thing about going to wanting a/c/s is that you take your mind off the details and "why this story is an exception".

Love vs. worry.

One allows the other to grow, the other can retard growth. Love does not mean not being sensible. In fact, it allows you to be more sensible because you can think more clearly when you don´t worry.